Tips for Helping Children Cope With Divorce

When parents decide to end their marriage in a healthy way, you can reduce the negative effects of divorce on their children, but what happens when the divorce takes place amid insults and lawsuits between the two? This can cause great affection to children.

In this article we give you tips to help you help your children overcome the divorce:

* Make sure children understand that they were not the cause of divorce.

* Explain the reasons for divorce, using common sense as a guide.

* Allow children to express their feelings about the divorce.

* Do not lie or withhold information that could harm children or help them understand the reasons for divorce.

* Be sensitive to how each child handled the divorce.

* Help children feel safe, to show them that love and commitment to their activities.

* Watch the behavior of each child remains appropriate for your current stage of development.

* Allows children to adapt to divorce their own pace.

* Help children maintain their usual routine.

* Set a good example for children by controlling the divorce in a healthy and mature.

* Determines the custody of a rational decision that meets the needs and interests of children.

* Maintain regular contact between the absent parent and children.

* Do not expect a child to take the role of the absent parent.

* Spend time alone with each child for him or her feel special.

* Do not fight against the children especially if the fight has to do with them. This can cause a child to blame himself for the situation. Talk to your pediatrician or inscríbelo a psychology class to overcome the divorce.

* Do not involve your child in your disagreements. Never include a child in your discussions. Keep out of any fight. If you have any questions about what is happening, try to answer as honestly without revealing too much information.

* Never force them to take sides. This is wrong and it happens a lot. Children have loyalty to both parents, so if you are only required to "your friends" is totally unfair. You should not even try.

* Talk about your concerns and feelings with the other parent of your child, when and where the child can not hear.

* Do not criticize others in front of your child. Even if you discover that the other parent is saying bad things about you, explain to children that sometimes people say bad things when angry.

* Never let your child listen to anything bad about the other parent, even if it is true. Teach your children the sympathy and compassion. Tell them that all people are different and sometimes two people who are married can be very different from each other.

* Assure your child that both parents love them. This is a must. Remind your children that you love another as much as you and your parents always love you.

Just remember that if children come first, the divorce does not have to go wrong.